Daily Prompt- Together
This is going to be the first time I will be talking about one of my best friends I go to college with and his relationship with his girlfriend. I;ve known his girlfriend for about 2.5 years and she’s a nice gal.
He and his girlfriend have been going out for about 3 years.
Slowly yet surely, he’s been opening up to me about the constant verbal abuse from her.
She is overly jealous of everyone he comes into contact with. His co-workers, his mother, and even me, being the “strike 2. One more strike and we’re breaking up.” One night, we had to study for a class but I didn’t know I was taking away her “alone with him time” and I really didn’t mean any harm.
She constantly yells at him for small reasons such as not talking with her late at night or when he tries to talk back to her.
You’re probably thinking “why can’t he just break up with her” or “He’s the guy, why are he letting a girl get to him” and well, I asked him those exact questions.
His girlfriend had a rough childhood and even now, she still has a problematic family. He said if there was a day they would break up, she had to do it in her own power and not him. And I just thought”you’re such a good human being for giving her so much power in this relationship” because really, he just doesn’t want to hurt her or see the worst if she breaks over it. Because he’s a good, decent guy who is the epitome of a “nice guy” he doesn’t want to see her sad and always accepts her apologies.
But my friend will only be hurt in this unhealthy relationship and it’s slowly breaking his mind.
What do you do when the person you love abuses him/herself and you too?
How do you keep yourself strong in a weak relationship?
Things are not always easy and there is never one side to a story.